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2026-04-10 10:40 am
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State webinar was...

--pediatric
--borderline incomprehensible(I don't have to look for fights!)
I get so angry when I think of all of my time that they've wasted. I think I could have spent a few weeks in Australia if I could have the part of my life back they wasted on meetings, papers and blah, blah. all to keep things going that don't really make me happy.
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2026-04-09 03:41 pm
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I don't know why...

getting a refund makes me feel guilty. It's not really my job to keep these writing classes open, and it's not like I promised someone specific that I'd do it with her.(Part of me still wish I'd just said "yes" but the money might come in handier than feeding my dumb brain, anyway.
(Part of me has always been holding out for something more passionate than me being a good little girl with my notebook, also, though, I have to admit that.)
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2026-04-01 12:56 pm

I know I'm not a scientist...

But if anybody wants me to believe that we people with cerebral palsy just, sort of, nicked our happiness lobes on the way out(She didn't say that, exactly, but dumber people fucking have) then I want to see the control group full of disabled people who get what they need and want without logistical juggling and feeling like an outsider, well, everywhere. Then maybe I can be all "Stupid brain chemistry, making me unhappy when I have all this." Sure,then, maybe. Mostly, I think that is much more convenient for abled people to think about than how different we're not.
But I don't see that, though we are not monolithic.
Mostly? It's the ableism, stupid.
I mean, Freud was weird, but he wasn't always wrong about EVERYTHING.
Love and work are both kind of kept from us, right?
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2026-03-22 12:43 pm
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Belated Friday Five...

These questions were suggested by [personal profile] melagan.

1. What was the reason you began a Dreamwidth or LiveJournal account (or both)? Probably back when I wrote a lot of fanfiction, which I kind of don't now. although I did begin a crossover sequel yesterday--we'll see if I really write it.

2. How many DW or LJ communities do you subscribe to? Kind of a lot, considering how quiet a lot of the comms are. Why did we ever abandon text for memes and pics?

3. Do you have a favorite community or one you check out often to see what's new?Both.

4. How did you pick your user name?It's a family nickname that I also write fic under.

5. If you could change your user name, would you? Considering the level of things that I would change about my life and identity, this doesn't even rate, but probably not.

The following bonus questions are brought to you by the fact that I (anais_pf) have been unable to access any page of LiveJournal for more than a week (and therefore cannot post to The Friday Five there):

6. If you have a LiveJournal, are you currently able to access it? Haven't even used it except to look at old stuff for years...feel like I would have deleted when it became all Russian except that I forgot my password or something. Am torn between being comforted by the memories when I do read it and sad about the stuff from then that still dogs me now.

7. Do you have any information about why one would be unable to access LiveJournal?

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2026-03-18 05:19 pm
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Feel like quitting everything...

but instead, here's some of what I've done the past few weeks.
Read more... )
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2026-03-11 02:38 pm
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WIP Wednesday, and a streaming find...

If you get a chance and don't mind sentiment(or musicals) you might want to stream "Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist" which I missed during the pandemic. it's cute, but also pulls your heartstrings too.
thought I'd be back here faster, but some virus or allergy attack had me literally sucking on a lozenge for week so, you know.
WIP: A revamped version of "My Friends Think I'm Crazy", which I'll put a sample of under a cut.
Read more... )
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2026-02-23 05:26 pm
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If I were looking for a phone shift to restore my passion,

this wasn't the one.(I'm not sure that there could be one...not giving 110% kind of feels right right now.) But at least, I could fill in the part of my bingo card for "Another disabled person tells me a long sad story," so #smallvictories.
My story will be workshopped for last class tomorrow--I've gotten a little feedback, and it's pretty good.
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2026-02-16 10:36 am
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Last night was like a House teaser...

my stomach was *so upset*--although I've always been...kind of the type, the last few times have been more intense. Do not like.
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2026-02-14 05:35 pm
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Valentine themed Friday Five...belated.

Who was your first kiss? Not exactly sure, a lot of my milestones were really late, but also clustered within the same year or so. Not sure if it was my roommate's friend or my neighbor.They were both decent in the moment, but kind of bad ideas. Somebody had to be first--I was at the end of my teens.

2. Who is the last person you kissed?Mom and I kiss, but we don't *kiss*, right? If you are talking about the passionate kind, he is on my circle.

3. What is the story of your most romantic kiss?1. At a party, New Year's Eve, even if we didn't go out for a year of weekends after this, still my favorite because it's a movie moment I actually got to have. 2. On a hotel terrace after meeting online friends in real life. It started to rain, not like a Cusack movie poster, but enough that rain makes me think of him often.

4. What is the story of your worst kiss?Either that the year of weekends ended on Valentine's Day, or something shorter and more general: Too Much Tongue, Too Fast.

5. Who do you want to kiss right now?In some ways, I've learned a lot since I was the bookish little thing that was secretly still hot to trot, but it's been a while--I'd be pretty open right now.But I'd love to see my online posse, too.

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2026-02-06 01:42 pm
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Friday Five...

se questions were suggested by [livejournal.com profile] that_one_girl.

1. What did you want to be when you were a kid? My mom's friend used to buy books for the library. She was also cool so I think I wanted to be her. I also have wanted to be a writer that long so I'm kind of doing it.

2. What is your proudest accomplishment so far?I don't know...I have a few great bylines, but I think I am most glad about helping someone else.This week, it was that I could participate in a crowdfund that kept someone in her home.

3. What is your dream job?Crip!TanahesiCoates, in a cooler city that isn't a drag.If everything had worked out, maybe I'd be some progressive's CJ Cregg.But I'm kind of only a leftist because things *didn't* work out...that version would have different dreams, anyway, probably.

4. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? I don't. Like, at all. I don't see myself dead, either, but I don't see *anything*--it's kind of disturbing.I used to be such a little *planner*. Of course, that was devastating when none of it worked out, but I signed off on it, damn it!

5. What does it take to make you happy? Is it too insufferable to be like Justice Stevens and say "I know it when I see it." Happy is hard, but contentment might be easier. I was very happy watching "Becoming Janr" yesterday, even if it's a big Austen RPF.

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2026-02-04 11:36 am
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Got to brag a little last night..

over my latest upcoming clip, and even more exciting, spoke with some authority about my ideas, process(gotta get one!) and the like.
It was most unusual and a pleasure to discuss without the "Wow, you made that *all by yourself* vibe that has accompanied prior discussions of my stories.
I could get used to that, but probably shouldn't. Will try to carry it with me, though, going forward.
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2026-02-02 01:18 pm
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I've had some tough Februaries...

But January this year was partly nauseating(Even as it picked up at the end) so this should represent a step forward.
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2026-01-30 12:18 pm
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Had a fired-up moment last night...

about pitching one of my essays, like, right now."I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and damn it, people like me."(Well, I'm not sure they do, really. Especially around here.)

But I had a target in mind and they seem like they don't really do personal accounts anymore. So, there goes that head of steam...felt nice for a moment though.But I guess any thought that includes me and"tackling" anything is just sort of wrong. All that wasted, misplaced self-love, bubbling around for no good reason...can a person's ego get blue balls? It's probably from the story and how eager I am to try to prove I'm not some...literary make-a-wish. But, now I feel like I put on makeup to lie down alone. Either I can focus on how pretty it was or what a pain it'll be washing it off the sheets...usually, I admit, I'd pick the sheets because that's just what my life is like,

Maybe it was Jacqueline....it was sort of frustrating when she made me feel good about myself when she was alive, too. Good that we can keep that streak going across time and space!

It's not really that I hate myself *that* profoundly, although I do have my moments. I don't know, the timing would usually be really bad. Like, "Fill out a fellowship application in three days because you can't win if you don't play," bad.(Do I seem like a person that could EVER happen to? Leaving aside the whole can't-be-accomplished on benefits thing, which I don't think she ever understood, where winning that would have closed one door as it was opening another. maybe.) Looks like it still is.
There'll be some contest(that I won't win, either) Or I'll be bored in the heat of summer(Hopefully strong enough not to get a Bluesky) put it up the blog and vaguely remember this little hint of drama.
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2026-01-29 02:15 pm
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Decent Day On The Phones Last Night...

so of course the new story for workshop seems...slow at first glance.
(Will really dig in tomorrow. Maybe just a bad beginning, though my own writerly struggle is always endings and I can start things all day. writing is the most fun for me before you have to, you know, live with what you decide and make the mosaic fit together.)
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2026-01-21 02:15 pm
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Tarot Prompt...

I cursed whatever “keen detective instincts” led me to this bargain palmist, even if I had made a new resolution to follow where my excitement led, at least when I could. I begged Brian to come with me. “It’s good practice,” I coaxed. “in case this non-working shit goes on for a while. Filling your days and all that stuff.”

“Christ…I’m not going to be laid up that long.”

Nobody could really know that, but abled people, especially American men, never wanted to hear it. I left the words on the tip of my tongue where they belonged and tried wheedling again. “I might make an idiot of myself—you wouldn’t want to miss that.”

He didn’t, and off we went. The place was hidden away in a strip mall and a bell dinged over the door like it was a spooky convenience store. The tarot reader was young and dyed-blonde, surprisingly efficient for someone in the spirit realm. For a moment, I’d trade my future for the crisp twenty I handed over, but I was here now. Best to have the experience.
The medium turned over one card. “The Empress is a strong sign of fertility.” She looked over from me to Brian, and I blushed as if I were in junior high and she had my handwritten diary.
“Oh, we’re not…he’s married. To someone else.”
Maybe the medium rolled her eyes a little. “The images aren’t often literal. Also could mean creativity and that kind of thing.”
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2026-01-16 11:27 am
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For an old prompt: keys

Shawn's eyes almost lit up as he saw the unattended keys gleaming among the hoarderesque piles of papers and stuff. Sometimes he really did feel that he had a special gift, even if it didn't come from the spirit world, since he could expect to be distracted by Jules' strawberry shampoo. He could tell it wasn't a real robbery, but an inside job. The "psychic" took a deep breath and waited. The secret to this bit was the pause(also that Shawn guessed it was the skeevy stepson.) His dad would have said that Kato Kaelin Junior had a bad attitude, and though it killed him, personally, and made him feel like a generation traitor, he had to agree.
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2026-01-15 11:28 am

If I had a "War chest" that lasted for two years, it might be a crime...

Maybe.(I'm not really clear on some of the rules since my dad retired and I get the retirement amount of Social Security, but it also stinks that SSI is so punitive, since the people on it got disabled younger and/or don't have much work history...that's mean, not protective, in my opinion of course.) After trying to drag through a bill that raises asset limits for years, I thought about it one day: Like, fuck the asset limits. (showing off that big policy brain and keen ear for messaging that have made me obscure) Give everyone the retirement amount once they show that they are disabled...it's not princely, but it could meet a modest nut. Which is supposed to be the point of all of that, not some game where you see how much they let you lie.(and, you have to because the amounts are too small for an honest life with any pleasures in it.)
Instead, they create accounts so that teens and twentysomethings can Save Up For College, because tell me again how school fixes everything.(I don't actually know that I know anyone who does this, but I'm too old and haven't mentored in ages. Maybe it rocks. Still seems a bit convoluted.)
Which brings me back to my title and how there is a certain irony in how many fundraisers my activist, yet SSDi- having ass gets invited to. I mean, I don't exactly need them to "give me money"--I had gifts from the holidays and I like contributing, but it does feel like the consideration flows in the wrong direction sometimes.
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2026-01-14 11:29 am
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Another long-lost prompt...

for "knots", which might have been different, further from the holidays.

She pulled at the ribbon of the small, compact package, that kind of put up a fight. Looking at the shiny blue paper and the neat wrapping job(She couldn't see any tape!) she wondered why the knotted ribbon that someone had fluffed up and made fancy, was green instead of white or silver, which seemed like the logical, stylish choices someone at the store might make. "Wow, good things come in small packages." For a moment, her cheeks got hot, because they'd just taken things to the next level recently, and she hoped he didn't think...well, never mind. In one of those moments of partial telepathy that she might have been glad had skipped a beat, he said "I got you a green one because it's your favorite color."
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2026-01-12 10:35 am
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For a long-ago challenge: PLACES

I'm not sure why, looking at that old discussion thread, "Places" seemed hard to write. Maybe I'm just looking back and making a big deal of a tough morning--it happens. That doesn't explain why, as I was looking back, it was as if a still, small voice in my head, thinking in full sentences as I almost never do:

"You can't do places because you've never had one."(Which is a thought I was trying to keep from everyone, back then,including myself, but especially my spiffy new(ish) virtual friends. The thing about an oasis is trying to make it just about the fun parts, not the fact that there are doorways in your own house that you don't fit through--I don't really need them, but that's not always the point.

Freud, who definitely had his own problems, would say it's about "love and work", but unless you grade on a very generous curve...well, I've had a lot of scraps, okay, made my share of collages, but I can't say, on either front, that I've ever had anything to sink into(whether or not that's a real thing or not, anyway, like Snot from The Wire, I've never really gotten to play along) Never had a spot where things are okay because I'm there. Not since I was lap-sitting size, anyway, and there are limits to how far back I want my time-warp to go, even as I sort of wish my friend Steph were still waiting for this overly-long attempt, and I wish I could be like my old self and see a future with my half-mordant, half-cheerful stamp on it.(That old self wants me to further break word count to assure us all "Hey, it could happen!" and I'm writing that because I probably owe her, but I'm pretty sure I don't believe that anymore.) Maybe just typing it is good for me, though.
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2026-01-08 01:03 pm
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First Friday Five Of 2026

. Do you have a favourite cause that you support? Yes, I have a lot...mostly, these days they involve the left wing of the Democratic Party and trying to bring it back to its roots and all that.

2. If so, how do you support it? Money, and many, many phone calls. I've pulled back a little, though, both for logistics and because it can eat up my life if I let it. Which would be one thing,if I, say, met my husband doing that stuff and it was, you know, us and our shared obsessions against the world, Jane-and- Bernie style, but my personal identity just suffers if I dive in too deeply.(And, no, it hasn't really turned out to be a great way to get a date because "You'd have so much in common." I was hoping, but not so far. For bohemians, everyone seems to be super-attached. blah. Although I guess if I ever did meet someone, I wouldn't have to worry about movement work messing up our longevity? Dig me, with the heart half-full for the next twelve minutes. I could still meet somebody! Like the peach that's still fresh...if you eat it *right now*)

3. Have you been an active member of an organization (attending meetings, volunteering, etc)? Probably the most unusual answer to this question involves the few ADAPT actions I went to, but I got sick from the plane--never flying again without a mask--and I promised my mother I'd stop, as I infected my everything. I still talk up the fact that I did it though.

4. Have you ever led any group? Does it sound like I ever led any groups? I've been on several advisory committees and people don't take my advice.

5. If so, how was your experience with it?
OR: 5. If not, why, is it a conscious choice, of lack of opportunity?Yes, both.

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